Who do you think You are?

You are NOT who you think you are....

I'd like to present an argument. "You are NOT who you think you are!" In fact, you are more than and better than you think!

From the time we break free of our cocoons that lay ever so peacefully in our mums belly, to that moment when we realize we've been alive long enough to remember when tape cassettes were the best thing since a boom box; we are programmed what to think about ourselves.

Before we are born there is someone or someone's that has hoped and prayed for you to come out a certain way. Whether it’s your dad who wants you to come out a boy, or your mum who wants you to come out a girl with her beautiful brown eyes; someone has predetermined who they want you to be.

From there we all know the routine. Our parents’ guide us and shapes us into an almost symmetrical figure that reflects that which they would like to see in you. Society manipulates and distorts reality to the point that anyone is subject to a smidge of mental illness due to constant trickery. When are we able to figure out who we are? 

The biggest issue with such extravagant outside influences is the inability for us to separate the lies from OUR TRUTH! Our truth becomes as simple as what makes sense to us and what makes us feel good. I challenge you to quiet the voices in your mind and ask yourself: WHY? Why do you really think the things that you think about yourself, good or bad? Is it your truth.

Women Divided = A Dying World!

There seems to be a shortage of women who are willing to sacrifice their own glorification in order to uplift another woman. What's up with everyone wanting to be in the spotlight? Have women become so selfish that unity and sisterhood is no longer important? Sure, television may put out a bunch of reality garbage that paints a tainted image of what sisterhood is about, but of  course we know that the motive which lies behind the smiles and cameras is only based on a need to feed the ego. 

Asian, Hispanic, Indian, African American, Caucasian, and every other group that graces this precious earth need to come together for one common purpose: our future and the future of this world! Many people have voiced and tried to force their personal opinions of which group of women make for better wives, mothers, and potential leaders, and subsequently this has led to a major separation. This has divided women and caused us to be more competitive with one another rather than supportive and empathetic. We need to allow the men to do what they do naturally and be the competitors; but encourage the women to nurture. It is not the woman's role to fight for the spotlight but rather be the voice behind the scene and encourage other women to do so. The weight of the world falls on the shoulders of women. We birth, raise, guide and support our men and children. Behind every man that leads should be a women that supports and influence's him with her love, integrity, and intelligence. This takes UNITY! Women, encourage other women and unite hand in hand while holding up the world with sisterhood.

Ladies! Stop blaming men for your broken heart!

Ladies..when will it end? When will we stop blaming men for our broken hearts? When will we realize that most of our relationship failure is due to OUR own actions? We walk around making sure that we look as sexy as possible, and are even willing to have sex on the first date; but have the nerve to end up with a broken heart when he decides to leave us. Why the broken heart? Did you really expect him to stick around for more? If he did stay around, then what value are you adding to his life other than an open set of legs? How about we leave our legs closed, tone down on the sexy, and begin to love ourselves again. We've allowed society's influence to force us into being nothing more than an overly sexualized carcass.  As women we promote s-e-x, s-e-x, s-e-x, can't keep our legs closed, and wonder why we end up lonely. LADIES! Our very purpose on earth is to influence and guide, but we are doing a horrible job.

We need to stop blaming men and complaining about how they are dogs, and just take responsibility for our own shortcomings. It's time to admit that we dropped the ball. Close your legs and cover up some of that sexy. Expose your intelligence and remind the man of your value....

Will Smith -I want my life to mean something!

When there is passion on the inside of you and a desire to make your life mean something, you will stop at nothing to make it happen! ~Rainee~

CALLING ALL MEN!! CALLING ALL MEN!!

I hope I have your attention. I love to empower and encourage women to be intelligent and work hard to stand for something, but I also love to encourage MEN! I like to believe the only thing stronger than an intelligent woman is a strong man who knows how to love his queen. A strong man who knows what it takes to keep his family together; a man that understands his headship within his community and within this world. Unfortunately, there are far too many males in this world that are not aware of their responsibility as being the head in the family and in their communities.

                                 DO I STILL HAVE YOUR ATTENTION? GOOD!

A man who truly loves himself knows that treating his woman like a queen automatically makes him the king. He knows that by raising and loving his children, he's investing into the future of this world and leaving a powerful legacy. A man who loves himself will know how to look a women in her eyes and see the beauty of her soul as well as her physical beauty. He'll have self discipline, self-control, ambition, and a willingness to work; HARD and SMART!  There are so many men in this world that fits this description, but there are also many more who does not. Men struggle with self-hate just as women do but the evidence may look different.

There is an entire generation of adult males in this world that have lost their way and don't know how to live up to the responsibility of being a 'man', and they are depending on the KINGS to show them.

Not Every Man Wants A Dime Piece...

 "I am so tired of being single. It's like all the good men are taken, and the rest are either; dead, broke, gay, or in jail," complained Low-esteem.

"Girl, let's go out and start meeting people because we ain't gonna meet a man by sitting around the house," said her best friend Dime Piece.
 
   Dime Piece was Low-esteems best friend going on 10 years, and she always wanted to give advice on the relationship do's and dont's as well as what type of man would make a good mate. Dime (nick name for Dime Piece) noticed since the beginning of their friendship, Low-esteem hooked up with men that were not relationship material and wanted nothing more than a woman who was committed to giving up the coochie. A few of Low-esteem ex's only came around for one thing which caused her to often use her bomb sex as a means to keeping a man. Dime was quit promiscuous herself but she didn't have to work that hard to get a man's attention nor did she have to put in a lot of work to keep it. This was the very reason she felt that her advice on catching a man was helpful.
    Dime was a bi-racial woman mixed with Black and Hispanic, big hazel brown eyes, jet black- long wavy hair, and an hour glass figure. Dime Piece was most definitely a man magnet. Low-esteem didn't quit have those features but she was pretty in her own way. She was pleasantly plump (as it's referred to on most dating sites), short brown hair, and round dark brown eyes. Low-esteem was a darker skinned Black woman who did not see herself as being beautiful. She'd received compliments all the time about her beauty and the uniqueness that she was packaged in, but that wasn't enough for her to see beauty in the mirror. She too wanted to be a man magnet! Low-esteem was so focused on the attention she wasn't getting that she didn't see the nice wholesome men that was checking her out. Sure, Dime turned heads everywhere she went and was possibly the cause of a few fender benders, but she had the look that most men who are obsessed by video vixens go for. This is not to say there is anything wrong with a man desiring a woman that looks like a video model; because they are very exotic and beautiful women; but Low-esteem had her own category that she was in.
  Low-esteem didn't realize the men that made the least noise and were the least obvious was checking her out. See, these men were equally as attractive and successful as the men that broke their necks for Dime, but they kept a low profile. Why? These men know that when you make a lot of noise and a big fuss over something it will cause many others to seek what it is that you're making a big fuss about. He doesn't want other men drooling over the woman that he desires to be his.These men know that the quieter it's kept, the better chance for him to creep up on the desired woman and take a chance on asking her out without much competition. He sees the value in this woman. He knows that she is a keepsake. Once she is secure in his arms and he knows that she is ready for his love; he will yell it to the entire world. I found one! I found one! And she is all mine...

   So, ladies, the moral of the story is this: Each and every woman has her own attractiveness that gets the attention of different kind of men. You don't have to cause traffic jams with your beauty, so therefore, don't compare yourself with other women. You may be getting scoped out by men who sees the significance in keeping a low profile so that he can come sweep you up from behind without a lot of distraction. He doesn't want you turning your head in every direction to see who is whistling, blowing, or calling for your attention. He wants your head in ONE direction; and that direction is looking only at him. That's how special you are and he knows that!

Happy Happy New Year!!! It's the year 2012 and so many of us have our new years resolutions, and plans, and goals that we will accomplish this year. That's great!


Now before we jump into the new year looking forward to all these wonderful things to happen, let's look back at this same time last year and try to remember our resolutions, and plans, and goals. How far have you come? Did you keep those resolutions; and did you seethose plans through, and accomplish those goals? Hopefully your answer is yes. But if the answer is no-what will truly make this year such a great year; such a productive year; or such a successful year? 

Just because it's a new year doesn't mean "Alas, I get a new start," because EVERYDAY you get a new start! January 1, 2012 is just a date. Have your mind made up that no matter the new year or mid year...you have a new day everyday. Make everyday count. Let 2012 speak for itself because it will have a story to tell based on how you live everyday.