Poem titled : "Self Love"

Did I ever tell you that you are more beautiful than a red rose full bloom?
Your smile is so bright that the joy can felt before you even enter into a room.

Your energy vibrates around you like the radiance of a colorful rainbow,
You walk with your head held high and your confidence generates the perfect glow.

When you speak with words of love every syllable nourishes my soul like rain drops to a thirsty terrain.
I look forward to the warmth and sincerity of your presence because it brings blessings upon my name.

You share your happiness as if you have an endless supply that's enough for whoever lacks.
You understand the importance of your support to others and that's why you're always composed and relaxed.

You have no worries-and a single worry wouldn't dare to hover your space.
You leave no room for that because your endless supply of faith takes the place.

I love the way you love me and how you hug me with such genuine care.
I will trust your ability to always have my back and to always be there.

God did a wonderful thing by allowing me to have the pleasure of knowing who you are, and I will be forever grateful because you are one of my most favorites by far...

I'll walk away from the mirror now and though the reflection can't go, I'll take you everywhere with me because there is so much more I want to know.

 

When Do They Grow UP!!

Sooooooo, After leaving the town where I grew up and moving to another state for several years, I decided to go back home so that I could be closer to my friends and family. My adrenaline was pumping and excitement was gushing through my veins. Though it was bitter sweet because I was leaving a state that was beautiful, and to most people it's paradise, I decided that home was where my heart was.

I really didn't know what to expect when I got home, but I at least expected for my loved ones to approach me with open arms. Well, that didn't happen! The exact opposite happened and to my surprise I felt more lonely than I'd felt when I was in the other state.

But! And this is a big BUT....An old love of mine surfaced and reached out to me via social media not knowing that I was back in town. He randomly sent me a message on social media to see how I was doing and to basically say hello. It was if he smelled my presence in the air, or he felt my energy closer to him. I felt such a relief and was thankful that the heavens sent a friend that could give me a REAL home welcoming....

Not so fast....After only a few weeks of catching up with this old love of mine, things began to go sour. He really is a great guy and he has done well with himself, but his inner man hadn't changed much. He didn't seem to have evolved when it came to relationships/friendships with women. Or shall I say he didn't evolve when it came to his relationship/friendship with ME! Apparently his excitement to see me was not from the heart. His excitement came from the other part of the body that sits between...oh never mind. I think you get it.

After I tried to clarify in my own authentic way that we should be past the physical with each other and try to move towards building a more solid friendship, he shut shit down. I don't get it. It's all good to enjoy that special someone in a romantic and sensual, and oh so sexual way; but what's after that. Is it not normal for two friends to experience each other on a deeper more mature level?

Maybe I didn't use the right words to get my point across to him, or maybe I didn't handle it the right way when I came to him about it, but after 20 years of friendship I thought he understood me. I still loved him and wanted to be friends, but I wanted a friendship with him that would grow my mind and maturity, and not just arouse my sexual sense. I thought we had something deeper than sex.

Well, he said, "It's goodbye forever this time" and just that simple he pulled down the curtains; the show was over.

When do they grow up? When do they realize that building a friendship and growing wise and more mature with that person has more power than creating lustful memories?

Was he ever really my friend? Was our past love a misconception? Or, am I missing something?

Hmmmmmmm.....

Suddenly I realized I was a Queen

 

 

 

 

So, you think I'm useless and my mind holds no substance?

 You disregard my feelings and beat down my positive utterance?

 I allowed your hateful words to tear down the beautiful flowerbed around my heart.

 I allowed you to sow those weeds and I gave those false beliefs a start.

 I wanted to live up to your standards because I didn't have any of my own.

I held myself to low regard because I didn't know better, but if only had I known...

 

If only had I known that my life was created in love... not only between my parents but by the Creator above.

If only had I known that your disregard of my feelings was a blessing to my soul.

The more you beat down my positive utterances, my mind opened up and my purpose began to unfold.

I didn't have to believe those lies that I was hopeless, and that I needed to measure my worth against that of which is foreign..

If only had I known I was born with a crown of glory and it is greatness that I must walk in.

The shallow ideas of this world tried to rip my spirit and crumble my mind...but if only had I know that my existence is a gift and my uniqueness makes me one of a kind...

 

Suddenly I realized I was a Queen...

 

Will and Jada Smith investigated for Willow's risky photo

One of the most precious moments in a family is when a newborn baby makes a grand entrance. The furniture in the house is rearranged, every surface and crevice is sterilized, and a new set of rules are put in place for everyone in the house to abide by. You made a vow before God to protect this baby with your life and allow no harm to come his or her way.

There is nothing in the world more beautiful than your little bundle of joy, right?

I don't think anyone who has raised children will contest that from the moment the child is born up until his or her preteens years, the moments are quit precious. But those teenage years come in swinging like a wrecking ball in a demolition project.

Your teen is now trying to convince you that she is an adult and has all the knowledge and wisdom she needs to live as one. Your teen has now taken over your position as the adult and wants authority over his own life.

Parenting does not come with an instruction manual and we don't always know what to do for our child/ren. It seems that Will and Jada Smith have run into this sort of dilemma with their precious baby girl Willow. Will and Jada received an uproar of criticism of their parenting skills for allowing Willow to pose in this photo.

So, we're judging now? As parents we know everything right to do? We know what is right and wrong for every situation with our kids? We've never done anything a little careless with our children? We've made every right decision with our kids, right? Your parents never made a mistake or done anything careless while raising you?

What if Will and Jada had no idea this picture or situation was taking place? What if Willow being a teen, lied to her parents or nanny and carelessly got in this situation? What if Willow, being too grown, thought this picture would be a cool way to maker her look super cool? Kids do stuff. We all know that! Let's not be so quick to judge the parents.

Now, the children services are investigating Will and Jada over a photo that doesn't have nudity or any sexual content. Of course we can come up with dozens of ways this picture looks inappropriate, and even dozens more  reasons that Will and Jada are such horrible parents; but it's not that serious.

There are kids being molested, beat, and killed by their parents and sometimes the abuse in those situations go unnoticed for far too long. We may live next door to a family where abuse to a child is taking place but turn our heads in the other direction.

This situation isn't really about Willow, Will, or Jada; but more so about our quick reaction to judge two parents who are using the same parenting instruction manual as the rest of us. Get it....there's no such thing as an instruction manual. Pray for this family and hope that through all the mistakes Will and Jada may make with their children, lessons are learned and their bond is never broken.

Being overweight can bring you happiness

" I need to lose weight!" "I'll start my diet Monday." " I wish I had her butt." "Why won't the weight come off?"


Does any of these statements sound familiar. Even if you haven't said these things out loud, have you thought them to yourself? If so, don't be ashamed about how you feel and don't feel bad about yourself because you don't have a super model's body. You may look to the picture on your left and think, "Only if I had that body I would be happy." That may even be true to some extent but the picture on the right doesn't have to make you squirm with discomfort.

 Here are 5 ways that being over weight can bring happiness into your life.


 Focusing On Improving Your Appearance
1. Once you realize that your body could be in better shape, and a workout and diet regime is needed, you have now taken your attention off of everyone else and placed it on yourself. Just the thought of improving yourself in any way brings about happiness and gives a feeling of self confidence. So, taking the time out to focus on ways you can improve your appearance and actually making steps to do what you need to do can make you feel powerful and bring happiness into your life.


Learning New Things
2. Some people are overweight due to eating all of the wrong foods. Being overweight can be a motivation to learn more about nutrition and the way different types of food fuel your body. I don't know about you but whenever I learn something new that can improve or enhance my life in anyway, it not only brings happiness into my life, but I feel more like a well rounded person. Most people who learn about the nutritional value of different foods will share what they learn to others, and helping someone else live a better life will deliver a express package of happy right to the doorstep of your heart.

Benefits Of Becoming More Active
3. From my observation and personal experience I know that becoming overweight doesn't happen by working out on a regular basis. More often than not, people who become overweight are not taking the time out to get enough exercise. But once the decision is made to shed those pounds; a decision is made to work out regularly. Exercising will give you more energy, help you sleep better, make your heart stronger, and build your immune system(just to name a few things). While all these wonderful things are taking place as you exercise, you'll find yourself in a better mood.


 Seeing The Fruit Of Your Labor
4. 5 days per week and 1 hour each day is what you've committed to exercise. Uphill, downhill, squats, lunges, jumping jacks, curl-ups, arm presses, push-ups; and before you know it the results are in. You are losing the pounds and can see the changes to your body. Your clothes are fitting looser and your stamina is through the roof. You may have even gone to the doctor and received the news that your blood pressure is down. As you begin to see the results of all your hard work no one will recognize you without a smile on your face.


A New Victory
5. All the hard work has paid off and now you're getting admiration, compliments, and new attention. The admiration, compliments, and new attention could possibly bring an overwhelming happiness into your life, but it's the stunning victory of seeing your progress that brings about the most happiness.


Everything can be looked at in a positive way and be used to promote happiness. Just find the strength to do so and never compare yourself to someone else.

Being a Super-Mom is dangerous!

After catching up with an old friend I hadn't spoke with in several years, I was told that she suffered a stroke and became paralyzed on one half of her body at the age 33, which was followed by brain surgery that next year, a dozen seizures later that same year, and a second surgery which involved a VNS device being implanted in her chest all within 2 years.

This young woman is now 35 years old and finally realizing that she needs to slow down and take care of herself first before she can take care of her family. She's a single mother and tried to take on the task of being a Super-Mom. But she can only be the best mom that she can be for her 3 children. After having a 2 hour conversation with my old buddy I couldn't help but to think that the term Super-Mom is over rated.

Mother's Day was a few days ago but it's never too late to acknowledge the people who have the most important job in this world; MOTHERS! Mother's are responsible for raising up the children who will be the future and carry on legacy's. This is not to say that father's aren't significant in the process, but we all know that children are guided by the nurture of his/her mother.

As a mother, there is only one job for that mom to do; and that is to be the best mom that she knows how to be. This whole idea of Super-Mom is a myth. It doesn't matter how strong, hard working, smart, or talented that mother is, she can only do what she can do. When mother's try to live up to the standard of being Super-Mom then she neglects the most important person in the equation-herself.

Mother's, stop trying to be Super-Mom just because you feel that you have the strength to do so. Take time out for yourself and only do what you can do. When you start to realize that you're tired more than usual, or frustrated more often, may be getting frequent headaches, you're not exercising regularly or eating healthy, feeling depressed or stressed, or even feeling overwhelmed more frequently; then it is time to STOP! Stop putting everything else before yourself. It may sound harsh but no one comes before you but GOD. When everyone is depending on mom, who is she depending on. This is especially for the single mothers who feels that the entire world is on their shoulders.

Super-Mom is a myth! You do NOT have super powers so therefore you need to stop living up to that title. You may be able to maintain the Super-Mom facade for a while but it won't be long before reality kicks in and you realize that all while you were being Super-Mom, you were sacrificing your health, happiness, peace of mind, and possibly your life. Slow down and take it one day at a time because all the tasks, errands, bills, parent conferences, friends, and relationships will be there after you take some time for yourself. Pace yourself and NEVER put anyone/anything before 'you' except God.

Think about that.

What if Jay Z attacked Solange?

Awwwww...this looks like happier times for Jay Z and Solange Knowles; so why the sudden outburst of fury? Why did Solange attack Jay Z on that elevator in the Standard Hotel? 

We may never know what sparked Solange's outrage and if Jay Z provoked the situation, but many feel that Solange got off the hook much too easy. Many feel that her actions displayed a violent side that deserved more of a consequence. While Jay Z is being complimented for maintaining his self-restraint, those giving him a thumbs up are also disappointed that he didn't give Solange a good smacking. "If Jay Z had Cleveland bus driver uppercut Solange he would have been labeled a woman beater for defending himself," says one commenter on usmagazine.com.

Of course, Jay Z should not have hit Solange in retaliation but when is it justifiable for a man to hit a woman? Jay Z has an image and very successful career to uphold which more than likely helped him keep a level head, not to mention that his wife was standing next to him; but what if it was Lil Mookie or your neighbor John Doe?

There are more women using violence against men than ever before, so how do men defend themselves? Some think that if a woman has enough courage to stand up against a man to fight, then she should be able to handle the repercussion of that man striking back.

My opinion is this: Ladies, keep your hands to yourself. Your place as a woman is NOT to discipline a man by striking him. You don't want none of that!