It takes confidence to love a stranger

   

       I decided to grab a bite to eat while out shopping at the mall this past weekend. As I scanned the different food vendors menu's and was trying to carefully make my choice as if picking out a pair of shoes, I'd suddenly lost my appetite. One minute I was starving and my stomach was singing 'Feed me Seymour' and the next minute the smell of the food court was just making me nauseous.
     I knew that my appetite would eventually come back so I decided to grab something anyway. I randomly chose this little grilled sub sandwich shop to keep it simple. As I was waiting for the sandwich my attention moved from the sandwich on the grill to the guy cooking it. I noticed how happy he was and how wide his smile extended. I hadn't seen a smile that big in a while; not even on my own face. I couldn't help but to start a conversation with him and join in on the delight of his inner joy.
     From speaking with this 21 year old gentleman for about 7 minutes I learned that his 60 year old father was dying from cancer, his mother had passed several years earlier from pneumonia, he had to drop out of school to get a job to help his father, and they were about to be evicted from their apartment because lack of sufficient income; yet he was the most positive person I'd encountered that day.
     I walked away with my perfectly crafted sub sandwich in one hand and my department store bags full of cute clothes in the other, and had every reason to have a smile on my face; but I didn't. I was irritated because I splurged a little too much on shopping, grumpy because I'd lost my appetite but wanted to stuff my face with a juicy 3 pound burger, and pissed that I had to walk another 10 minutes to my car from the food court. Yet, this young man who had every reason to be negative-wasn't.
     When I finally made it to my car I sat for a few minutes and thought about this guy. I wondered if there was a particular reason we crossed paths. Had it not been for me losing my appetite I probably would've chosen a juicy 3 pound burger and missed out on an opportunity to meet a very special guy. This young man was truly a blessing to meet and I thank God for these moments. I realized that I cared about that guy and sincerely wished him the best outcome for his circumstances. But something tells me that he will be just fine.

Do you have what it takes to become successful?

     

    

       It's been over 15 years since I've sat in a job readiness workshop and received some of the best information of my life. Janish Marsh, with a PhD in psychology, explained within a 2 hour workshop the skills needed in order to have a better chance at a successful career. She defined success simply as-completing a set of goals that has conveniently prepared you to create your next set. "Success isn't as far out of reach as some people may think. It is very near to you. Janish explained, "Success is not at the finish line, but it the drive that keeps you going."

     If more people understood that its' success getting them through each set of goals they've constructed in order to earn their desired outcome, more people would accomplish what they've actually set out to do. "You are successful long before you've earned the desired outcome," explains Janish, "And once you've earned the outcome you'd been working for, the journey changes from successful to accomplished." 

      So the moral of the story is that you aren't working to gain success, you are already successful considering that you are in the race and going forward in order to accomplish your desired outcome. A successful career is when you are continuously completing each set of goals that's leading you to your next set.

Skills needed in order to have a better chance at a successful career:

• Have a vision of a desired outcome
• Ability to set goals
• Self-confidence
• A start date

Do you have success? 

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Confidence:If You Got It Flaunt it!

     I'm trying to grow my facebook page, Confidence: If you got it-flaunt it. I need 16 more likes to reach 100. Will you help me get there?
     Allow me to tell you a little more about myself...Rainee J Grant is more than a business woman, an author, a motivational speaker, a mother, a sister, a daughter, a friend, and a mentor; she is a miracle. As a young child, she was served sorrow, abuse, and pain as her 3 course meal on a daily basis; but that did not weaken her strength. She spent most of her childhood living in a home with a mentally ill family member, survived the roughest streets of St. Louis, MO., escaped deadly situations, and fought to keep her own sanity, so Rainee has proven that she is made to last. Faced with many obstacles, she managed to find her purpose and courage through those trials.
     What started out as a life possibly headed for destruction and failure, Rainee turned into a life of hope and inspiration. She's been able to teach and connect with people from the east to the west coast of the United States and discovered that her love for helping others is actually her life's purpose.
         Rainee has defied the odds and became a self published author of the novel, I Found Love at the End of My Rainbow, she  mentors at risk youth who live in group homes, and she founded Flaunt Your Confidence-a movement devoted to building and supporting people who are on a confidence seeking journey; by teaching workshops that provide very useful tools and gives heartfelt support which is the master key when guiding  a person towards a rich and fruitful life.

Poor self esteem costs a woman her life after butt injections.

 

 

  

      A young toddler boy has to live the rest of his life without a mother. His mother suffered from poor self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence, and as a result lost her life due to silicone toxicity. 
     I can't find the perfect group of words to describe how grieved I am to hear about beautiful people risking their lives to enhance their physical beauty, but I am able to express how living without self-confidence can provoke dangerous life circumstances. Dangers such as: suicide, murder, drug abuse, alcoholism, mental illness, child molestation, rape, divorce, torn families and a slew of other revolting issues that are sweeping across our country.  One of the main causes is the lack of self-confidence. This may sound all too simple and more like a mere opinion rather than an actual assessment; but empirical studies spanning over 15 years have revealed that self-confidence contributes to the health and quality of life (oxfordjournals.org). 
     Don't believe it? Well, how do you explain a 22 year old young woman leaving her baby boy without his mother because she decided that having a bigger butt was more important than her health and life? The NYPD rushed to a horrific scene and discovered Tamara Blaine foaming at the mouth and having a seizure in a New York hotel room; July 2013. Reason? Blaine paid Tamira Mobley, 28, to perform a butt enhancement procedure which included the injection of silicone into her butt. Mobley was a non-professional without any medical training who performed the risky procedure which led to Blaine's death. 
     Tamara Blaine did not have to die this way but something in her mind (or the lack thereof) had her to believe a big butt was essential to her life. I suspect that Tamara was not happy with herself and did not have the self-confidence to believe her unique qualities were enough to live a fulfilling life. Self-Confidence is believing in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment and she obviously did not have that. If she had confidence in her abilities then she would have understood that a big butt could not enhance her as a person, especially as a mother. Tamara could not have had confidence in her qualities because a person who does-understands that one's qualities isn't solely measured by physical appearance. There is no need to discuss her judgment because if she had confidence in her judgment she would have at least saved up enough money to pay a professionally trained plastic surgeon to perform the procedure for her. Instead she used poor judgment and put her life in the hands of a scoundrel.
     If you get nothing else from Tamara Blaine's story, please realize the urgency to build your confidence and to help others build theirs. It can be a matter of life or death.
    

"Self-esteem in a broad-spectrum approach for mental health promotion."Health Education Research. oxfordjournals, 15 June, 2004.