Trent Shelton's beautiful message on appreciating yourself

Flaunt your confidence by being honest and comfortable with yourself

1. Be Honest With Yourself & Comfortable With The Way You Are At This Very Moment…

                What does that mean? Every human have triggers in their mind that causes them to think and feel a perculiar way about themselves in certain situations. A woman with a heavier body frame may feel insecure or ugly when walking into a crowded room at a party with several women who all have small body frames. The woman with the heavier body feels this way because a mental trigger was set off and sent to the part of her brain that has stored and attached an emotion to that image she saw when walking to room. These triggers can be in the form of songs, movies, special locations, eerie sounds, food, behaviors, people, and once again the list goes on.  Let’s say this heavy set woman was once a chubby kid who used to get teased to tears by her petite classmate. “You’re so fat,” says the petite classmate who is in fact teasing her chubby counterpart due to a trigger in her own mind. “You’re fat and ugly because you don’t look like me.” After hearing this enough times and feeling insecure or ugly (or both) afterwards, your mind has now embedded this feeling with that image and those words spewed at you.

          Understand- it’s okay to feel insecure, ugly, fat, skinny, rejected, unpopular, unimportant etc… Don’t be alarmed! I’m aware that this sounds 100% contrary to what so many others teach. And understand that I am expressing this from a mindset that was once crowded with lies. But I say its okay to feel this way because you’re dealing with something as shallow as a feeling; and feelings change a hundred times a day. There is nothing that you can do about this very real feeling other than seek the truth which opposes the lie that’s making you feel so awful. The only way to deal with these feelings is to accept that you really feel this way and be comfortable with it.

          Let Me Explain: If I walk into a room and see a bunch of beautiful-thin women, and this causes me to feel fat and ugly, I need to first accept that I feel fat and ugly. I need to be honest with myself. My thoughts should be ‘I feel very fat and ugly right now because there are so many beautiful-thin women in this room. BUT I know there is a lie somewhere in my mind and I will begin to seek the truth to dispel the lie.’

           Most women walk into a situation like that and instead of accepting how they feel about themselves they begin to size up the other women in the room and then allow envy, competitiveness, and hating fill their head. If you’re too busy being envious, competing for attention, or just being a straight up hater; then you are not working on YOU. The energy you could be using to work on having a more positive self –image is being used to dislike the image that you see of someone else. If you keep it real with SELF and admit how you feel to yourself and why, then you are making yourself the most important person in the room. When you are able to be comfortable with how you are at this very moment then you free up space in your mind and your confidence will show. When you are not comfortable with yourself then you are allowing a bunch of lies to crowd your mind and redirect your focus. Being honest with yourself does not mean that you are accepting it as being true, you are just being honest with how you feel.

          p.s. Even if you walk into a crowded room and believe there isn’t anyone else hotter, you are taking the focus off of you. Because in order to think you are the hottest chick in the room you have to look around and notice all the other chicks and rate how hot they are. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Stop focusing on whether you are the smartest, hottest, richest, hardest worker; and just acknowledge that your presence is noticed and you have an impact on everything around you.

If There Is No Change Then There Is No Change

   

 
 Have you ever visited an old neighborhood where you use to live years ago and saw that things were pretty much the same even after so much time had passed? Well, the neighborhood is still the same because the actions and habits of the people in the neighborhood stayed the same. Their ideas stayed the same and their conversations stayed the same.

    This can also apply in our personal lives. When our actions, habits, conversations, and ideas stay the same we get snagged in a meaningless cycle and ultimately our lives stay the same.

    You may say, "Well, nothing stays the same. Life is constantly changing," and this statement is quit true, but only on one end of the spectrum. Though nothing stays the same and life is constantly changing, that doesn't mean we have an influence on the changes which are taking place.

   When our actions, ideas, and conversations start to blend in with the rhythmic vibrations of the rising and setting of the sun; and life becomes nothing more than a blur; then we absolutely have NO influence over the changes that are happening in our life. Our jobs become nothing more than daunting work that we HAVE to do in order to just make ends meet; our relationships with people are only relevant because we need someone to fill the empty spaces in our life; our thoughts are no longer our own but the property of S.V.A.B (better known as Society's Views and Beliefs), and we lose track of the days, weeks , months, and years.  "Wow, where did time go?" This is the famous phrase that is chanted time and time again when life changes before us but not within us.

   Don't watch as life pass you by, but instead live enthusiastically and take your life for a ride.